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Title: How do you think marry a foreigner？and have you ever thought about that? [Print]

Author: fleaf Time: 2010-4-20 15:48
Three of my friend married to foreigners. I'm not sure they are happy or not. but for me , no! , it's so far from my family , i will miss them deeply!

Author: sunnyv Time: 2010-4-20 19:02

fleaf: Three of my friend married to foreigners. I'm not sure they are happy or not. but for me , no! , it's so far from my family , i will miss them deeply!

Hi, I have sent my MSN address to you. Thanks for your kind invitation.

Author: sunnyv Time: 2010-4-20 19:08

sddzzqq: As for me , it is beyond my thinking .

Quite suprised at your conservative thinking. This is the age of globalisation. I have seen a lot of people in China marrying just for the sake of marriage or they have reached the marriage age and I wonder if those marriages have a bright future. There should be no borders in love and marriage. People inside China are moving from their own provinces to other provinces to seek a better life and many have succeeded, others seek education and living overseas and quite many seem happily married. It really does depend on the person you are marrying, whether there is true love and a lifelong marriage. Nationality and origin does not matter.

Author: blackeye Time: 2010-4-20 21:08
Firstly, I think ‘How do you look upon marrying a foreigner’ is a better expression. I consider it as one's freedom whether to marry a foreigner or not.If they love each other, they can also live a happy life in spit of the differences between them. But it may not be advisable to marry a foreigner only for money or a better life and so on.[This thread blackeye 2010-04-20 21:10:07 edited]

Author: sddzzqq Time: 2010-4-20 22:28

sunnyv: Quite suprised at your conservative thinking. This is the age of globalisation. I have seen a lot of people in China marryinng just for the sake of ma

Yes , I agree with you that to some extent I am conservative . Everything will be OK when it refers to oversea , such as study and work , but marriage .

Author: sunnyv Time: 2010-4-21 11:05

sddzzqq: Yes , I agree with you that to some extent I am conservative . Everything will be OK when it refers to oversea , such as study and work , but marriage

Hope you can find your prince where you live as it appears you have little confidence is marrying overseas. The popular saying of &quot;the world as one&quot; seems does not apply to you. Just go according to your own thinking and instincts. As I said, love and marriage has no limit and boundary. Love and mutual care is paramount.

Author: fleaf Time: 2010-4-21 11:06

sunnyv: Hi, I have sent my MSN address to you. Thanks for your kind invitation.

Author: sddzzqq Time: 2010-4-21 11:52

sunnyv: Hope you can find your prince where you live as it appears you have little confidence is marrying overseas. The popular saying of &quot;the world as o

Anyway , thanks sunnyv . We are with the same thinking about others except for marriage . Maybe when the MR right really comes to me , I won't turn down . I have no idea .

Author: judelini Time: 2010-4-21 13:52

sunnyv: Quite suprised at your conservative thinking. This is the age of globalisation. I have seen a lot of people in China marryinng just for the sake of ma

dont be thinking so simple,do you think that someone get married with foreigners just for love?green card or something else,true love is exist,but just ture love is not everything,okay...thats all,who cares?

Author: jimmy.sun Time: 2010-4-21 14:05
well...i've been thinking about making friends with foreigner not being married with...cuz they are just like what we are... no different just all common people... most of who wanna get married with people outside i think he/she just on prupose...get green card or sth. else but there are still have a few people just for love...

Author: judelini Time: 2010-4-21 14:19

jimmy.sun: well...i've been thinking about making friends with foreigner not being married with...cuz they are just like what we are... no different just all com

we are different,different values,different policy systems..etc.we are so different,so we discuss this topic.

Author: jimmy.sun Time: 2010-4-21 14:50

judelini: we are different,different values,different policy systems..etc.we are so different,so we discuss this topic.

yeah, we are chinese and sure, a lot difference with foreigners: the color of skin/eyes/hair, the values,habit,etc...but we are the human beings, it's the same...to marry or not just personal things...

Author: sunnyv Time: 2010-4-21 15:04
I have asked several girls about what they think about marrying foreigners and the consensus appears to be the following:
1. There are two types of foreigners, one is the wild and playboy type without any long term plans and full of uincertainty. Another type are those who are decent, family orientated, forward looking, reliable and can be a lifetime partner in marriage. They would never marry the first type but would be happy to consdier the second type.
2. Marry a chinese person is more near to home does provide a sense of security, but a Chinese partner is normally more inward looking and the girls have doubts about a sustainable and solid future for family and kids. They also have to care for the parents and may be live with them without much privacy and a life of their own.
3. Marrying a Chinese or foreigner both have advantages and disadvantages. It depends a lot on the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with.

As we can see, there are pros and cons for marrying locally and overseas. It is a matter of personal choice and does not have much to do with the partner being foreign or Chinese. However, some people have prejudiced opinions about foreign marriages, so they would be against it without knowing why. Some do not even have much knowledge about life overseas and determine that life overseas is not suitable for them. China is now opening to the world, progressing and benefitting in different ways. We should not go back to the old times of confrontation and distrust. Open our minds and eyes. Your future can be in China or anywhere. All you need is your marriage partner is trustworthy.

Author: warmjaney Time: 2010-4-22 09:37

sunnyv: I have asked several girls about what they think about marrying foreigners and the consensus appears to be the following:
1. There are two types of fo

Hey, it's a really fabulous questionare. Everyone have their minds; And your conclusion is wonderful. The world is international and high-developing. Therefore, we should keep space with it to some extent; or we would be behind.

Author: fleaf Time: 2010-4-22 11:51

sunnyv: I have asked several girls about what they think about marrying foreigners and the consensus appears to be the following:
1. There are two types of fo

So , you plan to stay in china and find a girlfriend here? haha , you should.

Author: sunnyv Time: 2010-4-22 14:22

fleaf: So , you plan to stay in china and find a girlfriend here? haha , you should.

Waiting for the right princess to appear. I am already in China so my preference now would be a Chinese girlfriend. Anybody interested in this prince? haha

Author: sunnyv Time: 2010-4-22 20:28

fleaf: haha......... give me the agency fee. I will introduce you a beautiful girl.

oh sad, need the help of an agency to find a girlfriend. Am I that bad? haha. OK I will say hi to the first girl I meet tomorrow which suits me. This is better and free.

Author: Sarena Time: 2010-4-23 00:29
Some pepole may say that &quot; It`s not important where he/she from,the important thing is I love him/her and he/she loves me,so what`s the probelm? we certainly can marry&quot;,hehe~ But as we know,mixed marriage brings many probelms with it ,so u should think carefully and make your decision.

Author: fleaf Time: 2010-4-23 08:36

sunnyv: oh sad, need the help of an agency to find a girlfriend. Am I that bad? haha. OK I will say hi to the first girl I meet tomorrow which suits me. This

haha.. good luck! pray for that the first girl whom you meet today is not too old for you.阿弥陀佛............

Author: lviazz Time: 2010-4-23 11:29
I think this according to the fate..Love has no boundary.It's only distorted by the reality..It Commercialized.
Whatever the purpose for?It's the only his/her own attitude to life..They both willingness to marriage..They can get what they want from each other..I wonder how many true lovers existed in the married people all over the world..Even the true love,how many of them escape from the reality then free to happiness..I think love is they can get happiness from each other and willling to sacrifice oneself.Isn't say that is a fair Merchandise and cooperation to satisfy oneself ?There is no true or otherwise in love,depends on the attitude you towards to it!
As for me ..I'm interested in the straight things and different culture..I like to experienced the unusual things and challenge everything..
To marriage?I can't say ..If I meet a foreigner I loved.Maybe..

Author: judelini Time: 2010-4-23 12:56
yeah, so we have no right to say something bad to them.we just talk about it.actually the reason i wanna start this topic is that some people have some prejudices about this,and some people made use of these prejudices to do something bad.

Author: judelini Time: 2010-4-23 13:14
Every one has his/her ideas,in fact,the reason i start this topic is that i read an article about some bad statements about chinese girls,i think you must know the rumor which said that more and more chinese girls would like to marry foreigners,and some bad foreigners did something bad by make use of their such kind of thoughts,i think you must know the news that the foreigner teacher&quot;chinabounder&quot;have sex with many female students.that affair shocked me a lot. i know,we have no right to say something bad for that,because if its just a personal question.but some girls' attitude is wrong,so they will suffer losses.

Author: sunnyv Time: 2010-4-23 17:21

Sarena: Some pepole may say that &quot; It`s not important where he/she from,the important thing is I love him/her and he/she loves me,so what`s the probelm?

Oh. I know several people who are in mixed marriages between Chinese and Westerners/South-Asians. The kids are bright, cute and intelligent. The seem to have overcome the cultural and social challenges. The only problem is with parents who sometimes are against such marriages. I wonder what are the problems you have observed?

Author: sunnyv Time: 2010-4-23 17:37

lviazz: I think this according to the fate..Love has no boundary.It's only distorted by the reality..It Commercialized.
Whatever the purpose for?It's the only

Wow what a nice article. Your English may be a bit weak but yet you can still write out what is on your mind. Congratulations and well done. Your comments about foreign marriage is factual, sensible and indeed well balanced. It is not hard for you to improve your spoken English. First overcome your fright and fear in speaking English. Practice speaking in English. Once you start speaking, you will improve gradually. You already have the will to suceed, now put it into work.

Author: sunnyv Time: 2010-4-23 20:35

judelini: Every one has his/her ideas,in fact,the reason i start this topic is that i read an article about some bad statements about chinese girls,i think you

Oh, the Chinabounder story is fake and made up by five people who are a British man, an Australian woman, two Chinese men and a Japanese. There are plenty of news confirming that Chinabounder is a fake. Unfortunately, it is causing lot of tension in Shanghai and some people are going against foreigners. What a pity.
News about the fake:
http://www.taipeitimes.com/News/front/archives/2006/09/01/2003325691

Author: huckabee Time: 2010-4-24 11:23
It doesn't pose too much problems as long as two lovers live together, holding hands, exchanging endearments and being carried along by the chemicals; but once the tide begins to recede, so does everything else. Conflicts, controversies stand out and bickering, quareel ensue. One can always shake hands and bid farewell to this periodic romance if not for that piece of paper. So just enjoy living together and bide the time. This rules doesn't apply to those who marry for mercenary ends.

Author: loong Time: 2010-4-25 12:16
different cultral background,differemt lifestyle,more nad more friction they would have,but mix-up marriage can transcend boundries,because love without boundries.

Author: LOVE89Aimee Time: 2010-4-25 16:14
In my opinion ,whether to marry a foreingner or not depends on the two people' feeling of love.If the two have the similar culture recognisation,like similar interists ,hobbies,experience and so on, they will have many Common Topics and understandings to each other.

By the way ,I would like to marry a foreign boy if I can meet a suitable one . I think that no matter who he is ,if we love each other,we will abtain happinese.

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