The family or the love, which one will you choose?

Mandymeng

From the ancient times, we have the saying that one must choose between loyalty and filial devotion. In the modern times, as the society develops, in our mind, the distance is not an obstacle which cannot be removed, but our parents do not think so. So, when we go out or find a boyfriend or girlfriend who is not in the same province with you will get the opposition from the family. There should be many lovers who are in such a situation. And they do not know how to solve this problem. Raising this topic, just want to help them and me find a better way to deal with such a case.

huicong

It's the problem for me .

Mandymeng

Me too, if you get a wise way, please kindly advise me, thanks a lot. and if i have a better method, i will tell you also. hah

Ivy_Chen

I had the same situation before. But now my parents agrees with my choice. The problem is not the distance but the worry from the family. Especially the parents, they only want you have a happy life no matter your partner is rich or poor. They only hope he/she can treat you well. In my opinion, if you think he/she is the one who you are seekine for the partner then you will try your best to introduce him/her to your parents, make some examples to comfirm that he/she is good, and both of you will take good care of each other and all your family members. Of course, this need to be comfirmed by your family members. It will takes some time, so both of you must be patient. I can say I'm so lucky that I made it.
If you have the same problem pls don't give up, persist that and you will overcome it.

wickers

Take her to your province.

Mandymeng

wickers: Take her to your province.

I guess you are a gentleman, right? or you will say take him to your province, hah

Mandymeng

Ivy_Chen: I had the same situation before. But now my parents agrees with my choice. The problem is not the distance but the worry from the family. Especially t

maybe we are making use of the love and care from our parents. many times, i find that i am a little selfish. we do not consider their feelings and just want to pursue the so-called love. However, there is a saying that "love is blind", so we often do something unbelievable or something that hurt the hearts of our patents though they will forgive us eventually.

wickers

Mandymeng: I guess you are a gentleman, right? or you will say take him to your province, hah

Perfect analysis.

Janewy

Some time ago,I wacthed a movie named "A Time to Love"(<情人结>).I was deeply moved by the love between the actor and the actress.They shared the same difficulty with you,but they chose waiting.

Mandymeng

Yes, I watched this movie acted by Zhao Wei and Lu Yi,right? It is a sentimental and sad love which can only find in the movies, but it encourages me to believe my love. Acturally, I love this movie.