双语：Loneliness过高的期待让人孤独

a man is known by the company he keeps they say. if it is so,then everyone is bound to have their baggage of loneliness with them as companions.loneliness is not something that doesn't exist at all with any human being on earth.every human being feels lonely in his life at some point or other. it's but natural to have such feeling ,because that's what makes us all human and that is why we are as we are now.

他们说人总是为他身边的人所知的。如果是这样的话，每个人都注定与孤独为伍。孤独感是每个人都会有的，都会在某个时候，感到孤独，这是非常自然的。因为孤独感令我们成人，并令我们成为现在的我们。

if we shed some light on why we feel aloof or lonely at times, we would be very much astonished or even probably surprised by the results. we ourselves are responsible for our selfdefined gloominess. this is because at times we really feel that we are uncared for or feel someone doesn't understand us.

如果我们再三思考为什么我们有的时候会觉得高处不胜寒或孤独时，我们会对分析的结果感到非常的吃惊。我们自己应该对我们自己所定义的忧郁付责任。因为有的时候，我们真的觉得我们被忽视或者不被理解。

sometimes we over analyze real life situations and have this growing sense of self pity inside us. this feeling always gives us thoughts which picturise us always receiving the wrong end of the stick in life.the truth might not always be true if we touch our heart and see. it's just that our expectations in life and from people around us or circumstances that we are facing,have got the better of us. expectation is the silent killer which murders millions of mushy and time tested relationships. if there would have been not so many expectations from anyone, the world would have been a much better place to be. if there would have been no expectations,not many people would have had an aching heart and a life long grouse against there would have been better haves.if it wouldn't have been for unreasonable expectations not many couples would have divorced each other.

有的时候我们过度的分析了真实的情况，这令我们自己产生了自己怜悯自己的感觉。这种感觉经常会给我们错觉，如果我们扪心自问，真相并不总是真的，它们只是我们对身边人和环境过高的期待。期待是一个沉默的杀手，谋杀了无数经过时间考验的人也人之间的关系。如果没有了对任何人的期待，那么这个世界将会并得更好。如果没有期待，就不会有那么多人感到心疼，而对于有些人，一生的埋怨也就不会那么长了。如果没有那些不切实际的期待，也就不会有那么多夫妻离婚了。

how to come out of expectations then? good question. the answer is when you give something, don't expect anything in return. when our mother gave birth to us, she never expected that we will give birth to her.she has just fulfilled her desire to raise a family and live for them. in the same way, let our actions make us live for our self and let not expectation screw up the major portion of your lives. let us have the freedom and will power to express our love, affection and longingness for people whenever we feel. let us not restrict our freedom of expression just because he or she is not responding the way we want them to.

那么怎样才能跳出期望呢？好问题。答案是，当我们给予的时候，不要期待任何报答。我们的妈妈给予我们生命，决没有期望我们也给予她生命。她仅仅是完成了她拥有一个家庭并为之而活的理想。同样，让我们为自己而活，不要让期待成为你生命的大部分。让我们自由的表达我们的爱感动和渴望。当别人没有象我们期待的那样回应，我们也不要失去表达感情的自由。

well all in all a little bit of loneliness is good for a self-analysis to keep a check over your actions. introspection always makes you communicate with the innerself, but too much of introspection can make you scale the altitude of self pity. so show restrain at the right time.

当然，总的来说，一点点的孤独对一个人审视自己的行为是有好处的。自省总是会使你与你的心灵有所交流。但是过度的自省，会使我们总感觉遗憾，因此，还是适而可止的好。